I'm in that phase of my life when everybody around is getting married, or is about to. A friend of mine recently asked me to inquire about a guy, somebody whom I knew through another contact of mine. I asked her about the things that she really cared about. She told me that it was extremely important that the guy in question should be
a. Earning more than her
b. Should have a degree from an institute which is at least equal in stature to her's.
If the guy fulfills the above two conditions, she would say yes without much apprehension. Otherwise she wouldn't be able to 'respect' the guy.
And it made me wonder. Is this the criteria girls judge their husbands on???? To a great extent, yes, but are these the 'only' things that matter? Does it really bother someone that the guy is earning a salary which is 2-3 lacs less than her 18 lac annual package, or hasn't done an MBA but is 'just an engineer'?
I was shocked to say the least. Having studied in a b-school, I have known people who care about nothing but money. Many of those students simply disgusted me. They could stoop to any level to gain an advantage in a job interview or for currying favours (read networking) with people who could help them in getting a better paying job. Many times I wondered if these guys were able to sleep peacefully at night. Did they have any real friends out there? Will they ever be successful in any relationship based on trust?
I expected my friend to have shown a little more maturity after having studied with such people for a good two years. Sadly, that was not the case.
At Samsung, I knew a lot of people who were way better than I was, not only in terms of knowledge or work ethics, but also in terms of kind of people they were. I know that even though I am more qualified and earning more than what they are even after 6-7 years of work experience, it would take a lot of time and effort to be the kind of people they are. They are good people, my mentors whom I look up to. I enjoy their company and there is always something to learn from them.
How long will a girl care about the qualification of her spouse if he treats her like dirt? How long will the bank balance matter?
I am not saying that the salary/qualification should be ignored altogether. Yes, they matter a lot. But some things matter a lot more.
a. Earning more than her
b. Should have a degree from an institute which is at least equal in stature to her's.
If the guy fulfills the above two conditions, she would say yes without much apprehension. Otherwise she wouldn't be able to 'respect' the guy.
And it made me wonder. Is this the criteria girls judge their husbands on???? To a great extent, yes, but are these the 'only' things that matter? Does it really bother someone that the guy is earning a salary which is 2-3 lacs less than her 18 lac annual package, or hasn't done an MBA but is 'just an engineer'?
I was shocked to say the least. Having studied in a b-school, I have known people who care about nothing but money. Many of those students simply disgusted me. They could stoop to any level to gain an advantage in a job interview or for currying favours (read networking) with people who could help them in getting a better paying job. Many times I wondered if these guys were able to sleep peacefully at night. Did they have any real friends out there? Will they ever be successful in any relationship based on trust?
I expected my friend to have shown a little more maturity after having studied with such people for a good two years. Sadly, that was not the case.
At Samsung, I knew a lot of people who were way better than I was, not only in terms of knowledge or work ethics, but also in terms of kind of people they were. I know that even though I am more qualified and earning more than what they are even after 6-7 years of work experience, it would take a lot of time and effort to be the kind of people they are. They are good people, my mentors whom I look up to. I enjoy their company and there is always something to learn from them.
How long will a girl care about the qualification of her spouse if he treats her like dirt? How long will the bank balance matter?
I am not saying that the salary/qualification should be ignored altogether. Yes, they matter a lot. But some things matter a lot more.
