Why do people in relationships think they are unique...more or less they face the same kind of problems...same issues regarding family/ religion/ ego/ past/ present/ future....only the names and contexts change... and yet they look at me with condescending eyes .....and that I won't understand since I have never been in one....
To me they all appear same...who more often than not, confuse affection /lust /infatuation /crush/ pleasure with love...and they talk big about it...had it not been the case, most of them would not have faced break ups...for if you are in love...do you ever "break up"?????
haha! that was brilliant! well...ppl think they are unique because they 'hope' that they are. that naive belief reassures them to face the uncertain future.
ReplyDeleteand yes. i agree that if you are truly in love, you wouldn't break up. But sometimes they break up even if they are in love. :| But this is not to say that they do not move on coz time heals everything :)
we over simplify things so we can think we understand them better
ReplyDeletechemicals and hormones my friend......chemicals and hormones!! :P
ReplyDeleteWell said so can you define love..???
ReplyDelete@m.s.: true :)
ReplyDelete@Anonymous 1: haha...rightly said my friend :)
@Anonymous 2: no... I can't...it is too complex to be defined by a person...and it's a feeling which is too great to be put down in words ...but that doesn't give right to others (who are in relationships...or in so called 'love') to pass a judgement either...
ReplyDeleteI believe that if one is in love, one would accept the other with all his faults...even if they don't end up together, the love for the other person would continue to exist...if he can't do so..then it was never love in first place..
I would still ask you to try the same. Your few lines on the subject leaves much to be desired.
ReplyDelete@Anonymous2: Fine my friend, if you want me to define it..I will...
ReplyDeleteI believe that love is what a mother does for her child...come what may, she would always mean well for him(her). The child may be near or far, he may insult her, reject her, or may even forget her, she would continue to love him in the same manner and wish him success at all costs. The love for her child will never decrease, and she would go to the end of the world to protect him from any harm.
Compare it with the people in relationships who use the term "love" very lightly, who fell in love and face break ups every other day. Something that is so ephemeral cannot be love.
There might be exceptions to what I have written, but I am yet to see the "real" love that we so passionately talk about.
And indeed nice definition! One that I expected of you :)
ReplyDeleteJust this one thing which is puzzling me. Is true love such a hard commitment or are we degrading overall in our character considering we see increasing number of people who do not wish to stay in their marriages or relationships any longer (unlike some generations back when marriages were the material of janmon ka atoot bandhan stuff).
Or people were infact "never" in "true" love in most of the cases (it isnt too hard to believe that not every love story can aspire to be like on of romeo and juliet or heer - ranjha) and they just went on with their relationship considering the societal protocol and perspectives. And "today" when separation has become viable which is the reason we see increasing number of divorces and broken relationships etc.
And as per your definition if true love is static like mother-child love then it is something which had no fixed beginning (other than the beginning of life itself) and does not grow; for the way you defined love it doesn't seem to be a commodity which one would believe that it would likely grow.
And doesnt usually many loves begin first with infatuations and affections etc and then grow slowly with time. So a thing which begins and takes shape and develops and grow is certainly very unlike the static nature of the true love which you defined and also then -- it must decrease as well? Isn't it very logical?
Then in your opinion love that couples usually experience can not be compared to the love that a mother has for her child (as per above deductions)?
Or in other words I want you to agree that true love can never exist in a couple's relationship? And if it "is" indeed true love then it is an anomaly and a miracle and something to be immortalized in literature.
When i asked you to define it , i just meant that its one of the few things of our current time thats least understood but talked about the most„„ you have given a great defination hopefully you see the true one…!
ReplyDeleteand yes true love is a pilgrimage. It happens when there is no strategy, but its very rare (ought to be) bcoz most people are strategists„„!
@ anonymous : its easy to die in love then live with that feeling, the amount of break ups are just pointing to the dissatisfaction index of people so where is the prob??? Love is reduced to a commodity something to flaunt„„ understanding is missing„„ i may be wrong but it is all what i'm seeing now„„!
ReplyDeleteN about olden times ask yourself they believe in carrying out the relationship in that process you develop a mutual understanding, n you may or may not fall in love,,! Here also i may be wrong and honestly i want myself to be proved wrong'……¡!!