People sometimes call me humble...I know I am not...People confuse 'not bragging' with humility and probably that's where I think people make a major mistake. I know my limitations and many a time I get irritated when people think I am better than what I actually am. But does 'not bragging' make one humble..I don't think so...
I have failed many times in many things that I have tried. Biggest among them have been not getting through JEE and CAT as of now. There can be many reasons why I failed and probably the most important one is not preparing well enough. Putting in long hours is way different from hard work.
Some time back I met a friend of mine who had scored better than me in CAT. I know that he was not as passionate and enthusiastic about CAT as I had been, neither had he put in as much effort. But the end result for both of us was pretty much same. 'Not Selected'. We laughed about it when me met. I remember his exact words....'Dekh yaar! prepare tune bhi nahi kiya aur maine bhi nahi!!! ye to hona hi tha...agli baar prepare karke denge to badhiya hoga aur call bhi aa jayegi".
To him it did not make much of a difference since it was not something he had seriously tried. But to me it did. And that was precisely the time when my ego took a hit. Had he said the same thing again or had repeated it in some other way, I would have definitely told him..."Mujhe tera nahi pata...maine to bahut mehnat ki thi". I did not say that but I would have for sure. That would have satisfied my ego even if it was for a very short moment. But probably he had said a bitter truth I had refused to accept. Had I been well prepared, I would have got through at least one entrance exam among many that I wrote. It was not him that I was trying to convince. It was me all the way.
I know people who would not utter a word about their achievements. Humility reflects in their attitude and behaviour. They don't need the world to know who/what they are. Humility is about being brave and accepting the truth. More importantly it is definitely not about self deprecation. To me, Shahrukh Khan is more humble than Amitabh Bachchan. It may appear otherwise, but that is what I feel.
I appreciate the way you expounded on such an abstract topic(especially after yesterday's atrocious crap..no offences !!).I believe when you are at low ebb of your life you have no choice but to be 'HUMBLE'because world has spooky way of hurling hubris into debris/dustbin.Your real test comes when you are at prime of your career/life.
ReplyDeleteVIRAL your test is about to begin...so just grip up !! You will be tested hard !!
i love shahrukh! :D
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand , there definitely must be things in which u have succeeded...there r ppl who may have been as talented as u, but still they r way behind...
ReplyDeleteit is important to be honest with oneself, and i think , u r...
When u know where u have faltered in ur preparation , it is never too late to plug the loopholes...And whatever happens may be it does for some greater reason...and may be u have something better lined up for u in the near future...
please keep working hard and the results will definitely follow...
It is just the beginning of life...
@Anonymous: Thanks a lot for your support. I am not feeling bad or anything at not getting through. In life, I have got more than i deserved. Some people can be real unlucky. I thank god for whatever He has given me.
ReplyDeletethis post was just about clearing some misconceptions about myself. I don't say that I am an arrogant or a snobbish person. Just that I am not the exact opposite either. I hope i made my point :)
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@Priyanka Didi: Thanks a ton. I can't express how good I feel after reading this comment of yours. It's a huge compliment because more often than not people usually move from my blog to those of people I have put in my blog list(and say that they liked a particular blog in my blog list. Happened quite a few times. As lately as yesterday....he he ). Please do keep visiting and expressing your views about what you feel. Every time you post a comment, it gives a new insight :)..
ReplyDeleteThanks again