So here I am again, Single and not yet ready to mingle on this yet another Valentine's Day. Another year has passed at the end of which I find myself still searching for the same goals as last year. Still trying to find a place for myself both in and out of me. A few disappointments, some joys, a new life and a new world have marked this year. Though I find myself learning many things a little late on every frontier, not all of which can be put down into words (at least not by me). And love or a relationship is certainly not a priority on the list. And I am quite certain that by the time it becomes a priority, I will be late for it as well. I wonder if it ever will be.
On a serious note, I for one, never found the need for a relationship a very compelling one. Don't we have our friends and family to love already??? And why forget old relationships for new ones. I simply detest those who do it. Not all are guilty of this crime but I have lost some very good friends because of "Pyar vyar and all that". Love grows as we spend time with those with whom we like to be. So why raise such brouhaha over getting into relationship with a member of opposite sex and call it commitment/love etc. Aren't we all already committed to preserve the relationships and friends we already have. I thought I was in love once. "I thought" because I am not any more now, neither was I then.Though I must admit that it felt great at that point of time, living in a dream world. It was infatuation that came and went. Love stays. And I don't understand why people who want to get into relationship are so offended when someone says that "I love you but as a friend". Isn't friendship one of the greatest forms of love. Besides, I seriously wonder that people who constantly jump from one relationship to another are ever in love. I believe they are insecure, insecure of being alone, insecure of being devoid of attention,always seeking assurance that someone is there for them. I may/may not find a girl with whom I would like to spend the rest of my life. But I know one thing for sure, if I do find her,she is going to be a great friend above anything else. I do hope I find such a girl :) :P.
By the way, my blog celebrates its first anniversary. I remember writing my first post on this blog on 14th Feb 2009, when I had come back from a quiz, a little sad for not clearing the written rounds, suffering from mild fever and wondering if the number of entries would cross single digit. Well, here I am, writing 61st entry on this blog, special thanks to all those who cared to read and comment despite it being full of horrendous grammatical mistakes and absolutely meaningless posts.
Happy Birthday My Dear Blog and Happy Valentine's day by the way :) :P
hmm.. nice one.
ReplyDeleteI struggled with similar questions and found some ugly and some sensible answers.
But - "I for one, never found the need for a relationship a very compelling one." -- is.. interesting.
And - "want to get into relationship are so offended when someone says that "I love you but as a friend"." -- well.. friends don't get laid I guess and maybe its an insult to the masculinity/feminity :-)
I Stopped writing and commenting at blogspot, came today from UK and found your page as one of the bookmarks i set few months back!
ReplyDeleteNice post btw!
Appreciate your take on relations at age of 22-23 i guess?
@Anonymous:-- "I for one, never found the need for a relationship a very compelling one." -- is.. interesting.
ReplyDeletethis i said regarding a girl...not about any relationship i have had in my life. I have had some excellent people as friends and teachers. Could not have done anything without them. I definitely need such relationships in my life.
and yes..I had not thought about the masculinity/feminity part. It makes a lot of sense now. :). thanks...
@Ajay Shrivastava: thanks a lot sir...Please do keep coming back and commenting ...:) :P
ReplyDeleteI wonder what propelled the 'I'm single n I dont complain'author to start writing on a not-so-eventful V'Day 1 yr back with a philosophical post "Lessons of life" !!!
ReplyDeleteMy my... am I getting some hints or what??? :P
Ok I did some research... it didnt start with "Lessons of life" but what the heck...!! I'm still gettin some hints :D :D
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